What’s Wrong With Dating A Non-Christian
So, here here you are asking a question, why is it so bad to date a non-Christian? Is it really that bad? Or is there a better way? Or are there opportunities for me actually to convert this person who may not be a Christian? I mean those things do come in our mind especially when we want to start a relationship. I think it is important to say it at the top. Be very very careful when you come to this kind of thinking about your future.
Light Cannot Go With Darkness
The norm, or even what we may say the standard, is simply this, you know the Apostle Paul talks about being careful that you don’t yoke yourself with a non-believer because light cannot go with darkness. You know so that’s probably a good principle to say, if I’m going to start a relationship, are we starting a relationship at an equal level? And what is that that equalises us? What equalises us is our belief, okay. Is this person that I am thinking I want to develop a relationship with, are they Christians? Have they committed their lives to the Lord Jesus Christ? Are we sharing the same things in common? So, I think even from there, you begin to realise that if there’s going to be any conflict of interest for that matter in particularly on the basis of belief, the likelihood is that relationship is going to start at a shaky ground and it might also end up sadly in a very, very terrible way.
The Apostle Paul talks about being careful that you don’t yoke yourself with a non-believer because light cannot go with darkness.
What Does The Bible Say On Relationships?
So, I would say first of all do look at what the Bible really says about relationships. And the relationships that needs to start, the foundation is the Lord Jesus Christ. So, if I’m a believer and I’m interested in someone who is not a believer, I think it spells danger to begin to start seeking to do that particular, or rather pursue that particular line. Often people would say, ‘Well, maybe when we go out with a person, when I start investing my life in this person, they might be interested in the Lord Jesus Christ. They might be interested to church and at some point, I might also be able to lead them to faith.”
Check Your Motive
Look, there’s nothing impossible with God and I don’t think that is far off to think about it but again the motive must be wrong. So, in other words, if you start by saying, “Well, I’m going to enter into a relationship that I know it’s not biblically solid and it’s not sound, then maybe God almost like in a magic way, God might use that in the process to change the other person.” Well, you need to ask yourself what if that person doesn’t change at the end? Or what if that person kind of change because he or she is just interested in you? Okay. So, you will see that even that is not a good rationale. It is not a good solid way of formulating what might be a good solid biblical relationship. So, I would say that it is important to notice from there that it is not helpful to do it that way.
The Risks Involved
But I think also notice this, the interest that is going to develop, both you being a Christian and the other being non-Christian, you’re going to conflict somewhere. What if that person in the course of time, let’s say at the end of the day you develop the relationship that may lead into a marriage and all of a sudden, he’s been going to church just to get over the pre-martials and the marriage stage and then the first Sunday at church and then thereafter, the person is no longer interested.
You being a Christian and the other being non-Christian, you’re going to conflict somewhere.
So, your interest then gets to suffer and all of a sudden then we see you coming to Church alone because the other party is not interested anymore. And how are you going to raise your children in the fear of the Lord? How are you going to do things together in a way that is going to be pleasing to God? So, I think it’s important even just from that kind of basis to say that it is important then to say, “Let’s start rather at a good foundation of us being Christians and us seeking to follow the Lord Jesus Christ.”
Start The Right Way
By the way it doesn’t mean that even you as Christians you start at a solid foundation, there might not be some mishaps
By the way it doesn’t mean that even you as Christians you start at a solid foundation, there might not be some mishaps. Obviously, people do backslide in the process but I think it is important to say when we started, we didn’t start with those wrong motives or even with a wrong premise of thinking that we’ll change a person at the end of the day. So, my advice then is to say, start the right way, begin with a solid foundation of you committing your life to Christ knowing both of you are believers.
